tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11882938.post9217543804130035748..comments2023-10-12T03:35:59.807-07:00Comments on I thought this would be more like having a cat.: Last day of schoolMissuz Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02185674492467062254noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11882938.post-77149193138690991352008-06-02T13:46:00.000-07:002008-06-02T13:46:00.000-07:00I noticed and was impressed with the french braids...I noticed and was impressed with the french braids before you even mentioned them. WOW!<BR/><BR/>I wish my parents had helped me identify something that I was good at and then just praised the crap out me for doing whatever that thing was. Or praised me up and down for ANYTHING. They were pretty good parents but I think I would have liked to feel like I was THE BOMB for them. I try to do this with my kids (and I yell at them a fair amount too). I think it helps them feel secure and confident (the praising, not the yelling. Although I think its important to be yelled at more than a few times, builds emotional callouses). <BR/>I saw an interview with Beyonce and her mom once (how this happened I don't know) and Beyonce said something about her mom always believing in her and being her biggest fan, etc. Anyway, something about that struck a chord with me. And it seems to have worked for Beyonce. It also seems that if you are the one telling your child the good stuff that they will come to you when they are down and need to hear it.<BR/><BR/>I also wish I had been given a few more lessons in the "You get what you work for" philosophy.reddirtgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18061283650219439615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11882938.post-39130613067634258502008-05-29T10:17:00.000-07:002008-05-29T10:17:00.000-07:00PS - Sophie is a doll, and you are a KICK-ASS Fren...PS - Sophie is a doll, and you are a KICK-ASS French braider.Stinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13339652920444485075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11882938.post-18871468612891918062008-05-29T10:16:00.000-07:002008-05-29T10:16:00.000-07:00As a non-parent, I wish my parents would have been...As a non-parent, I wish my parents would have been consistent. It was very hard in my early adult life to teach myself that I couldn't work it to get the things I wanted. In addition, I wish that they would have put aside some of their religious trappings and be a little more upfront and honest with me about sex, sexuality, and how those two things can really relate to anger.<BR/><BR/>Off to call my shrink.Stinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13339652920444485075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11882938.post-80771069205520821912008-05-26T14:47:00.000-07:002008-05-26T14:47:00.000-07:00I don't think we become obsolete as our children g...I don't think we become obsolete as our children grow older. Our teens are going to want us to think that sometimes in the course of their search for their own identities, but they will actually want us and appreciate us MORE later. <BR/>Right now, in my ten year old daughter's Spoiled American Child mind set, I am actually an obstacle to her happiness. But I get out of bed on the hope that when she is making her own decisions out there, she'll think of me fondly before she chooses the opposite of what she thinks I'd want!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11882938.post-79153116250145469462008-05-26T14:37:00.000-07:002008-05-26T14:37:00.000-07:00Oh, and Lonna, I choose to believe all 4-year-olds...Oh, and Lonna, I choose to believe all 4-year-olds are miserable little shits, at least until next Monday, when I will begin believing all 5-year-olds are miserable little shits.JJisafoolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04593626516051718950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11882938.post-13682120169282483672008-05-26T14:36:00.000-07:002008-05-26T14:36:00.000-07:00As hard and at-times-soul-threatening as it has be...As hard and at-times-soul-threatening as it has been to stay at home with Liv and to send her to a co-op preschool, where I work in the classroom and know every child and every adult she interacts with, it has also been a blessing. I've been so invested in every part of her journey that the big transition for me is letting go, allowing her to have a life outside of me.<BR/><BR/>She started an additional preschool program at Seattle Children's Theatre in January, and that really opened my eyes. It is totally drop-off, even though I'm usually at work in the same building. I don't know many of the kids, and perhaps half of the other parents at all, only one well. CAST (Creative Arts for Small Thespians) is entirely her world. <BR/><BR/>And I struggle with it. It's great, positive, wonderful, but could easily bring tears were I to ponder it whilst in my cups.<BR/><BR/>I'm working a couple monkeycage shifts this week, and plan to write about this other way I've noticed it - books. Liv's reading chapter books on her own, like Junie B Jones and The Rainbow Fairies and the like. We've read some of those together, and are reading the Narnia series (currently on Dawn Treader) together, but we picked up a new fairy book last week and I realized the moment she had it in her hand that she wasn't going to be waiting for me, she was reading it herself, alone, buzz off. There are actually now books in the world Liv has read that I have not, she owns whole literary worlds now, without me as the guide.<BR/><BR/>I'm becoming obsolete.JJisafoolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04593626516051718950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11882938.post-21002301170588959672008-05-24T17:16:00.000-07:002008-05-24T17:16:00.000-07:00Don't get me started on my parents. Maybe they sho...Don't get me started on my parents. Maybe they shouldn't have hit me so much and told that I was absolutely horrible, but that's my parental baggage. As Dermot is growing I am struggling with teaching him self control. It's the most important thing for kids going from toddlerhood to preschoolerhood to kindergartenhood, and we're doing a lousy job at my house. Dermot is getting self-sufficient in many of the ways that say Sophie already is, but he just can not follow a single direction, and it's getting worse not better. It scares the shit out of me that it's going to get even worse. I am struggling with understanding if my son is exceptionally horribly behaved or if all 4 year olds are miserable little shits. I don't have enough experience around other kids his age since we still don't have many friends around here, and most of my work colleagues are old, childless, or they have kids under 2. I hope that Dermot can grow up to be as in control of himself as Sophie seems to be. I remember when this blog started that you were talking about similar issues with Sophie and her strong will. I really hope that we see similar improvement at our house. Sophie looks great, BTW. Fantastic french braids and such poise and confidence. I really hope she can keep her sense of self and not let the other kids wear her down.lonnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03727748724600871714noreply@blogger.com